The Student EQ Edge – Facilitation and Activity Guide

<p>Preface xiii</p>
<p>About the Authors xv</p>
<p>1 Introduction to the Facilitation and Activity Guide 1</p>
<p>Emotional Intelligence Defined and Research Overview 1</p>
<p>Planning Your Classes 4</p>
<p>Student Reflection 4</p>
<p>Student Emotional Intelligence Assessment 5</p>
<p>Facilitating Class Discussions 5</p>
<p>Agree–Disagree Activities 6</p>
<p>Organization of Th is Guide 7</p>
<p>Materials 8</p>
<p>A Note About Language 9</p>
<p>2 Case Studies of Emotionally Intelligent (and Not Emotionally Intelligent!) Behavior 11</p>
<p>Case Study #1: Why Can t I Make an A? 13</p>
<p>Case Study #2: 15 Years to Graduate 14</p>
<p>Case Study #3: But I m Good! 15</p>
<p>Case Study #4: Starting College 16</p>
<p>Case Study #5: Shared Responsibilities 17</p>
<p>Case Study #6: A Costly Decision 18</p>
<p>Case Study #7: First Job Jitters 19</p>
<p>Case Study #8: No Way 21</p>
<p>Case Study #9: Twins? 22</p>
<p>3 Emotional Self–Awareness 25</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 26</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 26</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 27</p>
<p>Activity 3.1: Feelings Journal 30</p>
<p>Worksheet 3.1: Feelings Journal 31</p>
<p>Activity 3.2: Hot Buttons 32</p>
<p>Worksheet 3.2: Hot Buttons 33</p>
<p>Activity 3.3: ABCDE Exercise The Impact of Thoughts on Emotions and Behaviors 34</p>
<p>Worksheet 3.3: ABCDE Exercise The Impact of Thoughts on</p>
<p>Emotions and Behaviors 35</p>
<p>Activity 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 37</p>
<p>Worksheet 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 38</p>
<p>Activity 3.5: Positive and Negative Aff ect 39</p>
<p>Worksheet 3.5: Positive and Negative Aff ect 40</p>
<p>Activity 3.6: Self–Development Plan for Emotional Self–Awareness 40</p>
<p>Activity 3.7: Case Study Emotional Self–Awareness 40</p>
<p>4 Self–Regard 41</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 42</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 42</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 43</p>
<p>Activity 4.1: Who Am I? 45</p>
<p>Worksheet 4.1: Who Am I? 46</p>
<p>Activity 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 47</p>
<p>Worksheet 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 48</p>
<p>Activity 4.3: Positive and Negative Self–Talk 51</p>
<p>Worksheet 4.3: Positive and Negative Self–Talk 53</p>
<p>Activity 4.4: 360&deg; Feedback 54</p>
<p>Worksheet 4.4: 360&deg; Feedback 55</p>
<p>Activity 4.5: Modern Family 56</p>
<p>Worksheet 4.5: Modern Family 57</p>
<p>Activity 4.6: Self–Development Plan for Self–Regard 57</p>
<p>Activity 4.7: Case Study Self–Regard 57</p>
<p>5 Self–Actualization 59</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 60</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 60</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 61</p>
<p>Activity 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 63</p>
<p>Worksheet 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 64</p>
<p>Activity 5.2: Emotions Meter 65</p>
<p>Worksheet 5.2: Emotions Meter 66</p>
<p>Activity 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs A Window into You! 67</p>
<p>Worksheet 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs A Window into You! 68</p>
<p>Activity 5.4: Defi ning Your Personal Mission Statement 69</p>
<p>Worksheet 5.4: Defi ning Your Personal Mission Statement 70</p>
<p>Activity 5.5: Th e Amazing Race 71</p>
<p>Worksheet 5.5: Th e Amazing Race 72</p>
<p>Activity 5.6: Self–Development Plan for Self–Actualization 72</p>
<p>Activity 5.7: Case Study Self–Actualization 72</p>
<p>6 Emotional Expression 73</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 74</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 74</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 75</p>
<p>Activity 6.1: Observing Emotions 78</p>
<p>Worksheet 6.1: Observing Emotions 80</p>
<p>Activity 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 81</p>
<p>Worksheet 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 82</p>
<p>Activity 6.3: Follow the Leader 83</p>
<p>Worksheet 6.3: Follow the Leader 84</p>
<p>Activity 6.4: I Messages 87</p>
<p>Worksheet 6.4: I Messages 88</p>
<p>Activity 6.5: TV Emotions 90</p>
<p>Worksheet 6.5: TV Emotions 91</p>
<p>Activity 6.6: Self–Development Plan for Emotional Expression 92</p>
<p>Activity 6.7: Case Study Emotional Expression 92</p>
<p>7 Independence 93</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 94</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 94</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 95</p>
<p>Activity 7.1: Private Eye 98</p>
<p>Worksheet 7.1: Private Eye 99</p>
<p>Activity 7.2: By Yourself 100</p>
<p>Worksheet 7.2: By Yourself 101</p>
<p>Activity 7.3: Please Do Th is for Me! 102</p>
<p>Worksheet 7.3: Please Do Th is for Me! 103</p>
<p>Activity 7.4: Reality TV Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 104</p>
<p>Worksheet 7.4: Reality TV Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 105</p>
<p>Activity 7.5: On My Own 106</p>
<p>Worksheet 7.5: On My Own 107</p>
<p>Activity 7.6: Self–Development Plan for Independence 108</p>
<p>Activity 7.7: Case Study Independence 108</p>
<p>8 Assertiveness 109</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 110</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 110</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 111</p>
<p>Activity 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 114</p>
<p>Worksheet 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 115</p>
<p>Activity 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 117</p>
<p>Worksheet 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 119</p>
<p>Activity 8.3: Giving Feedback 120</p>
<p>Worksheet 8.3: Giving Feedback 121</p>
<p>Activity 8.4: Controversial Issues 122</p>
<p>Worksheet 8.4: Controversial Issues 123</p>
<p>Activity 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 124</p>
<p>Worksheet 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 125</p>
<p>Activity 8.6: Self–Development Plan for Assertiveness 127</p>
<p>Activity 8.7: Case Study Assertiveness 127</p>
<p>9 Interpersonal Relationship 129</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 130</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 130</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 131</p>
<p>Activity 9.1: My Favorite Person 134</p>
<p>Worksheet 9.1: My Favorite Person 135</p>
<p>Activity 9.2: Sharing Secrets 136</p>
<p>Worksheet 9.2: Sharing Secrets 137</p>
<p>Activity 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 138</p>
<p>Worksheet 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 139</p>
<p>Activity 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 140</p>
<p>Worksheet 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 141</p>
<p>Activity 9.5: Getting Closer 142</p>
<p>Worksheet 9.5: Getting Closer 143</p>
<p>Activity 9.6: Self–Development Plan for Interpersonal Relationships 143</p>
<p>Activity 9.7: Case Study Interpersonal Relationships 143</p>
<p>10 Empathy 145</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 146</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 146</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 147</p>
<p>Activity 10.1: What Is Empathy? 149</p>
<p>Worksheet 10.1: What Is Empathy? 150</p>
<p>Activity 10.2: Th e Art of Questions 151</p>
<p>Worksheet 10.2: Th e Art of Questions 152</p>
<p>Activity 10.3: Refl ective Listening 153</p>
<p>Worksheet 10.3: Refl ective Listening 154</p>
<p>Activity 10.4: Empathy Assessment 155</p>
<p>Worksheet 10.4: Empathy Assessment 156</p>
<p>Activity 10.5: Listening Even When It s Hard to Do! 159</p>
<p>Worksheet 10.5: Listening Even When It s Hard to Do! 160</p>
<p>Activity 10.6: Self–Development Plan for Empathy 161</p>
<p>Activity 10.7: Case Study Empathy 161</p>
<p>11 Social Responsibility 163</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 164</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 164</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 165</p>
<p>Activity 11.1: Doing What s Right 168</p>
<p>Worksheet 11.1: Doing What s Right 169</p>
<p>Activity 11.2: Cooperation 170</p>
<p>Worksheet 11.2: Cooperation 171</p>
<p>Activity 11.3: A Company s Social Responsibility Policy 172</p>
<p>Worksheet 11.3: A Company s Social Responsibility Policy 173</p>
<p>Activity 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 174</p>
<p>Worksheet 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 175</p>
<p>Activity 11.5: Take Action! 176</p>
<p>Worksheet 11.5: Take Action! 177</p>
<p>Activity 11.6: Self–Development Plan for Social Responsibility 177</p>
<p>Activity 11.7: Case Study Social Responsibility 177</p>
<p>12 Reality Testing 179</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 181</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 181</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 182</p>
<p>Activity 12.1: My Big Decision 184</p>
<p>Worksheet 12.1: My Big Decision 185</p>
<p>Activity 12.2: Th e Mirrors Around You 186</p>
<p>Worksheet 12.2: Th e Mirrors Around You 187</p>
<p>Activity 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 189</p>
<p>Worksheet 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 190</p>
<p>Activity 12.4: Decision–Making Interviews 191</p>
<p>Worksheet 12.4: Decision–Making Interviews 192</p>
<p>Activity 12.5: Reality–Testing Scenarios 192</p>
<p>Worksheet 12.5: Reality–Testing Scenarios 193</p>
<p>Activity 12.6: Self–Development Plan for Reality Testing 194</p>
<p>Activity 12.7: Case Study Reality Testing 194</p>
<p>13 Problem Solving 195</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 196</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 196</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 197</p>
<p>Activity 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 199</p>
<p>Worksheet 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 200</p>
<p>Activity 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 201</p>
<p>Worksheet 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 202</p>
<p>Activity 13.3: Solving Your Problems 203</p>
<p>Worksheet 13.3: Solving Your Problems 204</p>
<p>Activity 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 205</p>
<p>Worksheet 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 206</p>
<p>Activity 13.5: One Fine Day 207</p>
<p>Worksheet 13.5: One Fine Day 208</p>
<p>Activity 13.6: Self–Development Plan for Problem Solving 208</p>
<p>Activity 13.7: Case Study Problem Solving 208</p>
<p>14 Impulse Control 209</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 210</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 210</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 212</p>
<p>Activity 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 214</p>
<p>Worksheet 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 215</p>
<p>Activity 14.2: But I Want . . . 216</p>
<p>Worksheet 14.2: But I Want . . . 217</p>
<p>Activity 14.3: Survivor 218</p>
<p>Worksheet 14.3: Survivor 218</p>
<p>Activity 14.4: No Regrets? 219</p>
<p>Worksheet 14.4: No Regrets? 220</p>
<p>Activity 14.5: Strategies for Success 221</p>
<p>Worksheet 14.5: Strategies for Success 222</p>
<p>Activity 14.6: Self–Development Plan for Impulse Control 222</p>
<p>Activity 14.7: Case Study Impulse Control 222</p>
<p>15 Flexibility 223</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 224</p>
<p>Suggested Books, Movies, and Television Shows 224</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 225</p>
<p>Activity 15.1: Refl ections About Change 227</p>
<p>Worksheet 15.1: Refl ections About Change 228</p>
<p>Activity 15.2: Flexibility Survey 229</p>
<p>Worksheet 15.2: Flexibility Survey 230</p>
<p>Activity 15.3: Th e Price of Inflexibility 231</p>
<p>Worksheet 15.3: Th e Price of Inflexibility 232</p>
<p>Activity 15.4: Stretching Yourself 233</p>
<p>Worksheet 15.4: Stretching Yourself 234</p>
<p>Activity 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 235</p>
<p>Worksheet 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 236</p>
<p>Activity 15.6: Self–Development Plan for Flexibility 237</p>
<p>Activity 15.7: Case Study Flexibility 237</p>
<p>16 Stress Tolerance 239</p>
<p>A Note About Th is Chapter 240</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 240</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 241</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 242</p>
<p>Activity 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 244</p>
<p>Worksheet 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 245</p>
<p>Activity 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 246</p>
<p>Worksheet 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 247</p>
<p>Activity 16.3: Irrational Th inking and Stress 248</p>
<p>Worksheet 16.3: Irrational Th inking and Stress 249</p>
<p>Activity 16.4: Resources for Coping 250</p>
<p>Worksheet 16.4: Resources for Coping 251</p>
<p>Activity 16.5: Stress Busters 252</p>
<p>Worksheet 16.5: Stress Busters 253</p>
<p>Activity 16.6: Self–Development Plan for Stress Tolerance 253</p>
<p>Activity 16.7: Case Study Stress Tolerance 253</p>
<p>17 Optimism 255</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 256</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 256</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 257</p>
<p>Activity 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 259</p>
<p>Worksheet 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 260</p>
<p>Activity 17.2: De–motivators Watch Your Self–Talk 261</p>
<p>Worksheet 17.2: De–motivators Watch Your Self–Talk 262</p>
<p>Activity 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 263</p>
<p>Worksheet 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 264</p>
<p>Activity 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 265</p>
<p>Worksheet 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 266</p>
<p>Activity 17.5: Perseverance Defi ned 267</p>
<p>Worksheet 17.5: Perseverance Defi ned 268</p>
<p>Activity 17.6: Self–Development Plan for Optimism 269</p>
<p>Activity 17.7: Case Study Optimism 269</p>
<p>18 Happiness 271</p>
<p>Student Learning Outcomes 272</p>
<p>Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 272</p>
<p>Planning Your Class 273</p>
<p>Activity 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 275</p>
<p>Worksheet 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 276</p>
<p>Activity 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 277</p>
<p>Worksheet 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 278</p>
<p>Activity 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 279</p>
<p>Worksheet 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 280</p>
<p>Activity 18.4: Well–Being Indicators 281</p>
<p>Worksheet 18.4: Well–Being Indicators 282</p>
<p>Activity 18.5: Th e Pursuit of Happyness 283</p>
<p>Worksheet 18.5: Th e Pursuit of Happyness 284</p>
<p>Activity 18.6: One Commitment Self–Development Plan for Happiness 284</p>
<p>Activity 18.7: Case Study Happiness 284</p>
<p>References 285</p>
<p>Appendix A Model Syllabus 287</p>
<p>Appendix B Sample Grading Rubric for EI Reflection Questions 291</p>
<p>Appendix C Movie Selections for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 293</p>
<p>Appendix D Self–Development Plan for Improving Emotional Intelligence 301</p>
<p>Appendix E Resources for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 303</p>