Becoming Orgasmic

<br/><B><I>Contents</I></B><br/><br/><I>Acknowledgments<br/><br/>Introduction<br/><br/>1 Getting Involved</I><br/><br/>Who can benefit from this book?<br/><br/>Fears and hopes you might have.<br/><br/>You are not alone.<br/><br/>If you have a partner, how to decide what to do during your sexual growth.<br/><br/>Ways to feel encouraged as you progress through the chapters.<br/><br/><I>2 Getting to Know Yourself</I><br/><br/>The influence of early experiences on your attitudes toward sex.<br/><br/>Your personal sex history and putting it in perspective.<br/> Abusive incidents that may have taken place.<br/><br/>Dealing with concerns about your body.<br/><br/>Where you get standards for appreciating yourself physically.<br/><br/>Visual exploration of your genitals.<br/><br/>Coming to terms with negative feelings and fostering positive feelings about your genitals.<br/><br/>Myths and misconceptions about women's sexuality.<br/><br/><I>3 Exploration Through Touch</I><br/><br/>Exploring the textures of your entire body.<br/><br/>Dealing with uncomfortable feelings.<br/><br/>Relaxation exercises.<br/><br/>The G-spot and you.<br/><br/>Strengthening your vaginal muscles.<br/><br/><I>4 Touching for Pleasure: Discovery</I><br/><br/>Claiming your body as your own.<br/><br/>A new way to look at masturbation.<br/><br/>What does giving yourself pleasure mean to you?<br/><br/>Exploring your body for feelings of pleasure.<br/><br/>Some ideas to try.<br/><br/>Cognitive therapy techniques.<br/><br/>Putting pressure on yourself, and the tendency to become a spectator.<br/><br/><I>5 Touching for Pleasure: Focusing</I><br/><br/>Continuing exploration through touch.<br/><br/>Difficulties you might experience.<br/><br/>Ways to focus and increase your arousal and pleasure, including body work and sensate focus.<br/><br/>Exploring erotic literature and fantasy, and concerns you may have about them.<br/><br/><I>6 Going Further</I><br/><br/>Problems you may be having.<br/><br/>Issues that influence change.<br/><br/>The importance of appreciating and valuing who you are.<br/><br/>Dealing with conflicted feelings about changing.<br/><br/>Women's physical responses during the sexual response cycle.<br/><br/>Influences on sexual response, including aging and contraception.<br/><br/>Fears about orgasm.<br/><br/>Role-play orgasm.<br/><br/>Ways to increase arousal and trigger orgasm.<br/><br/><I>7 Using a Vibrator: A Little Technology</I><br/><br/>Taking a new look at vibrators.<br/><br/>Different types of vibrators and how to find the right one for you.<br/><br/>Exploring your body.<br/><br/>Concerns about excessive use of or attachment to the vibrator.<br/><br/><I>8 Being Female, Being Sexual: Special Issues of the Body</I><br/><br/>The menstrual cycle as it begins and ends your reproductive years.<br/><br/>Problems with menstruation, including premenstrual syndrome and amenorrhea.<br/><br/>Sexual health and response throughout the life cycle.<br/><br/>Your body during and after pregnancy.<br/><br/>Ways to maintain gynecological health.<br/><br/>Breast exams and doctor visits -- some suggestions.<br/><br/><I>9 Sharing Self-Discoveries with Your Partner</I><br/><br/>Expectations and apprehensions about sharing your changes with your partner.<br/><br/>Ways of sharing self-pleasuring with your partner.<br/><br/>Sexual desire problems -- approaches to helping.<br/><br/>Concerns from the woman's point of view.<br/><br/>Concerns from the man's point of view.<br/><br/>Learning new aspects of initiating and refusing sex.<br/><br/><I>10 Pleasuring Each Other</I><br/><br/>The importance of trust and communication in pleasuring each other.<br/><br/>Ways to avoid putting pressure on yourself and your partner.<br/><br/>Using verbal and nonverbal communication during sexual interactions.<br/><br/>How to encourage and support each other.<br/><br/>Positions for pleasuring.<br/><br/>Enjoying nonintercourse forms of lovemaking.<br/><br/>Becoming less inhibited in front of your partner.<br/><br/>Dealing with negative feelings about male genitals.<br/><br/>Vibrators as part of lovemaking.<br/><br/>Using fantasies with a partner.<br/><br/><I>11 Intercourse: Another Form of Mutual Pleasure</I><br/><br/>Feelings about intercourse and other forms of sexual affection.<br/><br/>Seeing intercourse as part of, rather than the pinnacle of, sexual expression.<br/><br/>Appreciation as a key to encouraging change.<br/><br/>Genital-size concerns.<br/><br/>Advantages and disadvantages of different positions for intercourse.<br/><br/>Coital orgasm -- is it worth it?<br/><br/>New approaches to try if coital orgasm is important.<br/><br/><I>12 Sex in the Modern World: Real-Life Relationship Issues</I><br/><br/>Cultural pressures on women to be more than they are.<br/><br/>Cultural pressures on men to change.<br/><br/>How much have social expectations about sex and relationships changed?<br/><br/>Recovering from rape or incest.<br/><br/>Choosing a partner in an AIDS age.<br/><br/>Personal values, religion, and sexual relationships.<br/><br/>Update on sexual frequencies and changes in stable relationships.<br/><br/><I>13 Enhancement</I><br/><br/>Guidelines for enhancing your sexuality.<br/><br/>Techniques for oral-genital and anal lovemaking.<br/><br/>Aphrodisiacs.<br/><br/>Ways to delay ejaculation.<br/><br/><I>14 What Next?</I><br/><br/>Alternatives to consider if you are still dissatisfied.<br/><br/>Locating and choosing the best therapist for you.<br/><br/><I>Note to Professionals<br/><br/>A Selected Annotated Bibliography<br/><br/>Index</I>