<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 </xml><![endif]--> <p style="margin:0px;">Introduction xi</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part I Rules for Finding Love 2</p> <p style="margin:0px;">1 Be Yourself 4</p> <p style="margin:0px;">2 Get Over It Before You Get On With It 6</p> <p style="margin:0px;">3 You Won’t Be Happy With a Partner Until You Can Be Happy on Your Own 8</p> <p style="margin:0px;">4 You’ll Know Them When You Meet Them 10</p> <p style="margin:0px;">5 Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh 12</p> <p style="margin:0px;">6 Being Less Than a Hundred Percent Attractive Is a Great Filter 14</p> <p style="margin:0px;">7 Don’t Keep Making the Same Mistakes 16</p> <p style="margin:0px;">8 Certain People Are Off Limits (You Know Who They Are) 18</p> <p style="margin:0px;">9 You Can’t Change People 20</p> <p style="margin:0px;">10 Relationships Aren’t About Sex 22</p> <p style="margin:0px;">11 Get to Know Someone Through All the Seasons Before Making Any Major Decisions 24</p> <p style="margin:0px;">12 Don’t Stay With Someone Who Doesn’t Care 26</p> <p style="margin:0px;">13 If You Can’t Trust Them, You Haven’t Got a Relationship 28</p> <p style="margin:0px;">14 Be Honest (While You Still Have the Chance) 30</p> <p style="margin:0px;">15 Don’t Play Games 32</p> <p style="margin:0px;">16 Don’t Paint New Partners with Old Brushes 34</p> <p style="margin:0px;">17 Check You Both Have the Same Shared Goals 36</p> <p style="margin:0px;">18 You Can’t Make Someone Love You 38</p> <p style="margin:0px;">19 Be Cruel to Be Kind 40</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part II Relationship Rules 42</p> <p style="margin:0px;">20 Be Nice 44</p> <p style="margin:0px;">21 Be Together Because You Want to, Not Because You Need to 46</p> <p style="margin:0px;">22 Allow Your Partner the Space to Be Themselves 48</p> <p style="margin:0px;">23 Look to Your Own Faults 50</p> <p style="margin:0px;">24 Be Honorable 52</p> <p style="margin:0px;">25 Put Each Other First 54</p> <p style="margin:0px;">26 Recognize the Signs 56</p> <p style="margin:0px;">27 Be a Hero—Or a Heroine 58</p> <p style="margin:0px;">28 Accept the Differences, Embrace What You Have in Common 60</p> <p style="margin:0px;">29 Don’t Belittle Your Partner 62</p> <p style="margin:0px;">30 You Want to Do What? 64</p> <p style="margin:0px;">31 Let Not the Sun Go Down Upon Your Wrath 66</p> <p style="margin:0px;">32 Be the First to Say Sorry 68</p> <p style="margin:0px;">33 Let Them Have the Last Word 70</p> <p style="margin:0px;">34 Houston, We Have a Problem 72</p> <p style="margin:0px;">35 Don’t Put Them on a Pedestal and Expect Them to Stay There 74</p> <p style="margin:0px;">36 Know When to Listen and When to Act 76</p> <p style="margin:0px;">37 Never Stop Trying to be Attractive 78</p> <p style="margin:0px;">38 If You Can Say Something Nice, Do 80</p> <p style="margin:0px;">39 Don’t Try to Be Their Parent 82</p> <p style="margin:0px;">40 Be Part of Their Life 84</p> <p style="margin:0px;">41 If Little Things Annoy You, Say So—With Humor 86</p> <p style="margin:0px;">42 Go That Extra Step in Trying to Please Them 88</p> <p style="margin:0px;">43 Make Sure Your Partner Is Always Pleased to See You 90</p> <p style="margin:0px;">44 Don’t Dump Responsibility on Your Partner 92</p> <p style="margin:0px;">45 Let Them Know If You Don’t Like Their Friends 94</p> <p style="margin:0px;">46 Jealousy Is Your Stuff, Not Theirs 96</p> <p style="margin:0px;">47 Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids 98</p> <p style="margin:0px;">48 Make Time for Romance 100</p> <p style="margin:0px;">49 Have a Passion for Your Life Together 102</p> <p style="margin:0px;">50 Share the Workload 104</p> <p style="margin:0px;">51 Trust the Other One to Do the Job 106</p> <p style="margin:0px;">52 Don’t Be a Nag 108</p> <p style="margin:0px;">53 Make Sure Your Love Making Is Making Love 110</p> <p style="margin:0px;">54 Don’t Control Them 112</p> <p style="margin:0px;">55 Listen to What They’re Not Saying 114</p> <p style="margin:0px;">56 Most Everyday Arguments Are About Something Else 116</p> <p style="margin:0px;">57 Respect Privacy 118</p> <p style="margin:0px;">58 Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend 120</p> <p style="margin:0px;">59 Don’t Be Offended If They Want Some Space 122</p> <p style="margin:0px;">60 Men Like Flowers Too 124</p> <p style="margin:0px;">61 Keep Your Finances Separate 126</p> <p style="margin:0px;">62 Contentment Is a High Aim 128</p> <p style="margin:0px;">63 Be Generous to Each Other Financially 130</p> <p style="margin:0px;">64 You Make a Choice Every Day 132</p> <p style="margin:0px;">65 Don’t Be a Martyr 134</p> <p style="margin:0px;">66 Stop Sniping—Someone Has To 136</p> <p style="margin:0px;">67 You Don’t Both Have to Have the Same Rules 138</p> <p style="margin:0px;">68 Do It Their Way If It Matters More to Them 140</p> <p style="margin:0px;">69 Put Yourself in Their Shoes 142</p> <p style="margin:0px;">70 In-laws Are Part of the Package 144</p> <p style="margin:0px;">71 Keep Talking 146</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part III Rules for Parting 148</p> <p style="margin:0px;">72 Listen to Your Own Internal Voice 150</p> <p style="margin:0px;">73 Recognize That It Takes Two 152</p> <p style="margin:0px;">74 Keep the Moral High Ground 154</p> <p style="margin:0px;">75 Don’t Keep Mulling It Over 156</p> <p style="margin:0px;">76 Leave the Kids Out of It 158</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part IV Family Rules 160</p> <p style="margin:0px;">77 Don’t Blame Your Parents 162</p> <p style="margin:0px;">78 Don’t Let Your Parents Control Your Feelings 164</p> <p style="margin:0px;">79 Your Children Come Before You 166</p> <p style="margin:0px;">80 Nothing Is Worth Falling Out Over 168</p> <p style="margin:0px;">81 Treat Them Right, No Matter How They Treat You 170</p> <p style="margin:0px;">82 There Are No Circumstances in Which It Is Ever Acceptable to Say “I Told You So” 172</p> <p style="margin:0px;">83 Don’t Pressure Your Family Just Because You Can 174</p> <p style="margin:0px;">84 Never Be Too Busy for Loved Ones 176</p> <p style="margin:0px;">85 Your Children Need to Fall Out with You to Leave Home 178</p> <p style="margin:0px;">86 They Don’t Have to Be the Same as You 180</p> <p style="margin:0px;">87 There’s Always Stuff with Siblings 182</p> <p style="margin:0px;">88 Let Go of Your Role 184</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part V Friendship Rules 186</p> <p style="margin:0px;">89 There Are No Rules 188</p> <p style="margin:0px;">90 Your Best Friend Was Once a Stranger 190</p> <p style="margin:0px;">91 Only Have People in Your Life Who, on Balance, Make It Better Not Worse 192</p> <p style="margin:0px;">92 If You’re Going to Be a Friend, Be a Good Friend 194</p> <p style="margin:0px;">93 Forgive 196</p> <p style="margin:0px;">94 Never Give Advice* 198</p> <p style="margin:0px;">95 Don’t Make Other People Uncomfortable 200</p> <p style="margin:0px;">96 Find Friends Who Love the Truth 202</p> <p style="margin:0px;">97 Never Lend Money Unless You’re Prepared to Write It Off 204</p> <p style="margin:0px;">98 If You Don’t Like Their Partner, Tough 206</p> <p style="margin:0px;">99 When One Finger Points Forward, Three Point Back 208</p> <p style="margin:0px;">100 Friendships Change 210</p> <p style="margin:0px;">101 Know When to Let Go 212</p> <p style="margin:0px;">102 Bitterness Helps No One 214</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Part VI Rules for Everyone 216</p> <p style="margin:0px;">103 People Are More Important Than Things 218</p> <p style="margin:0px;">104 Guilt Is a Selfish Emotion 220</p> <p style="margin:0px;">105 Love Equals Time 222</p> <p style="margin:0px;">106 The More You Put Out, The More You Get Back 224</p> <p style="margin:0px;">107 Other People Are Where It’s At 226</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Had Enough Yet…? 228</p> <p style="margin:0px;">You’ll Get Older But Not Necessarily Wiser 230</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Get Your Work Noticed 232</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Anybody Can Be Wealthy—You Just Need to Apply Yourself 234</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Get Them Emotionally Involved 236</p> <p style="margin:0px;">Relax 238</p> <!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if !mso]> <![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <![endif]-->